First things first, DD went to the doctor last week and we found out she’s going to have a girl. She’s right at 20 weeks gestation and so in about 20 more weeks a bundle of pink and green joy shall attach itself permanently to my heart :). I did ask the doctor about drug testing, in front of DD and they both agreed. Happy to report that my daughter isn’t on any negative substances for her or for baby.
I guess I should be happy to report that DD has moved in with me. She has moved away from the father of the child, but that is only because the 21st of the month the Sheriff or his representative would displace them from the apartment. She packed up her clothing and I went to pick her up on Thursday. I fairly insisted that she make this move as she was calling me non stop about not having food and being hungry and frankly, I couldn’t take my child (or anybody else) being hungry. Last week I had been there on Monday to feed her, she called me on Wednesday to come but I was out of town and couldn’t and the fact that she said she had nothing to eat the entire day on Wednesday BOTHERED me so I told her that I was coming but that she would have to be prepared to come back with me. Funny now, the boy’s family seems to be more helpful to him. He had an unpaid ticket which they now seem agreeable to pay, he didn’t have a cell phone, but yesterday they were able to get him one so I’m glad to see that they are finally stepping up and seem to be inviting him back into the fold of their family.
There is still no talking sense into my daughter – she decided to let him continue to have use of her car, reasoning that he needed to be able to get around. Mind you – she’s stuck in my house because I have work to do and she’s not driving my car when I have need of it. I’ve stressed to her that my house isn’t one of ill repute so I hope NEVER to catch boyfriend in my home. The one thing I have in my favor is that she never knows when I’m coming or going which hopefully will keep him at bay. I did tell her however that its ok to date. Should he find some employment and have the money to take her to dinner and the movie, by all means go. See if they have a relationship beyond procreation… but that is the best I can do at compromise. I’m not paying for dates, or suggesting date locations, if she wants to see the boy – then try to do so under more conventional channels. Probably too much to ask, but…
Meanwhile, she is applying for jobs but as we discussed earlier, she’s at a disadvantage being pregnant and job hunting – while an employer can’t say pregnancy is a reason for not hiring her, who would willing put a pregnant woman on their insurance? She does have insurance of her own, but a potential employer can’t inquire and would naturally make an assumption. So I’m not necessarily stressing the fact that she find a job – I probably should. I don’t want her sitting around for 20 weeks though. So I’m open for suggestions on paths to steer her in a positive manner. What does a pregnant 19 year old do? Besides eat…. (Been to the grocery store AGAIN and spent 150 bux…, I’ve cooked full course meals and she definitely has an appetite).
I did stress to the boy that his primary objective is to be working on a place to move his family and a means of supporting them – he looks like a deer caught in the crosshairs but really, while she’s incubating, he needs to be making the nest ready.